Test Your Self Esteem
How highly do you think of yourself? Do you regularly boost yourself by considering all your good points? Our level of self-esteem affects every part of our lives. What we tell ourselves internally (our inner dialogue) influences how we behave as well as how we communicate, verbally and non-verbally, with others.Our inner world mirrors our outer world. If our inner chatter is disparaging and negative, we will no doubt act in line with these beliefs. This is why it is vital to check what we are telling ourselves on a daily basis.
Below you will find 22 questions to test your self-esteem. Answer “yes” or “no” to each of the statements below.
1) Do you have a hard time nurturing yourself?
2) Have you ever turned down an invitation to a party or function because of the way you felt about yourself?
3) Do you get your sense of self-worth from the approval of others?
4) Are you supportive of others that berate of yourself?
5) Whenever things go wrong in life do you blame yourself?
6) Do you react to disappointment by blaming others?
7) Do you begin each day with a negative attitude?
8) Do you feel undeserving?
9) Do you ever feel like an imposter and that soon your deficiencies will be exposed?
10) Do you have an inner critic who is disparaging or demeaning?
11) Do you believe that being hard on yourself is the best motivation for change?
12) Do your good points seem ordinary and your failings all-important?
13) Do you feel unattractive?
14) Have you ever felt your accomplishments are due to luck that your failures are due to incompetence or inadequacy?
15) Have you ever felt that if you are not a total success, then you are a failure and that there is no middle ground, no points for effort?
16) Do you feel unappreciated?
17) Do you feel lonely?
18) Do you struggle with feelings of inferiority?
19) Do other people’s opinions count more to you than your own?
20) Do you criticise yourself often?
21) Do others criticise you often?
22) Do you hesitate to do things because of what others might think?
If you scored eight “yes” answers or less, your self-esteem is healthy.
If you scored between eight and 15 “yes” answers, your self-esteem needs some work. Monitor your inner chatter and remind yourself regularly of your strengths.
If you scored 15 “yes” answers or more, this indicates low self-esteem. Low self esteem is often created during our childhoods and can be influenced by the way our parents treated us. Low self-esteem tends to be characterised by many self-limiting beliefs. Learn to love and accept yourself for who you are, don’t compare yourself to others and work towards being your number one fan. When you like yourself, others follow your lead automatically.
If you feel that you need extra help with your self-esteem issues, it might be worth looking into counselling to help you improve the way you see yourself. I am living proof that watching your thinking and reframing the negative thoughts can have a hugely positive impact. From a miserable childhood where I was constantly told I was a nuisance and that I was a liability, I have managed to undo most of the negative programming I received from my parents. Of course it is a work in progress that I’m far kinder to myself now than I was when I was younger.
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